It’s difficult to remember why we have a home. It’s more difficult for some of us to remember that our home and the state of that home is not who we are. But that’s the truth of it – our home is our home and we are who we are.

Please realise that these two things are very separate.

Your home is where you live. It’s where most of your dirty clothes are, all the paper be it books, letters, bills, receipts etc., food and the mess and smells that come with it – a home is were we live, and where there’s life… there’s usually MESS.

Mother dearest, remember why you have a home. Remember that others share your home and your life. Remember your reasons for being a mother in the first place and try to remember why you live with the partner you have chosen.

As soon as you start a relationship as intimate as life sharing, it is important to remember that your partner is a separate person. In doing so, it is important to constantly remind your partner that this fact is very real – you are separate people and as such deserve to be respected. Having said this, it is vitally important for you to respect your partner’s equality too.

1) Practice the habit of being excited to see them when they come home.

2) Practice the habit of doing one deed a day that you know they will appreciate.

3) There are things you like about him/her. Find those things and mention them a lot.

It is simple to make a home without buying things, cleaning things, and feeling discontented with things. A home is where your family’s heart is – when your family is home, is it a pleasant experience? Or is it a chore with you their chore master?

Practice your new habits every day and in a few months you will begin to see change in yourself which will bring change in others.

These things will take time. You are planting seeds; it may take quite a while for the promised plant to become evident. Practice with a view to your future – build the future that is good for you all.

See you next time dear...